TRAVELING can be stressful, especially if you have little ones with you.
From getting through security smoothly to boarding the plane and keeping them busy during the flight, preparation is key.
But what helps ease the pressure is if you’re traveling with your partner or another adult, they can help when needed.
However, a mother feels she has been let down by her husband after they were both traveling on a long-haul flight with their one and three-year-old children.
She revealed that he left her to look after the children on the flight and did not “leave his seat once”.
The mother, who took Mothers Network to share her situation, she revealed that she was furious because of the situation she was left in.
She said when they boarded the plane, they discovered their seats “were not together.”
The mother, who is anonymous, continued: “My husband was alone in the back and I had two seats, one for me and my one-year-old son on my lap and one for my three-year-old son.
“When we sat down, I said [to my husband] ‘Don’t worry, I’ll be fine. Let’s see how it goes, maybe we can swap. Come see us when we’re up there.
“He didn’t move from his chair once. I saw him go to the bathroom. But not once did he come up to our row, ask how we were doing, or take one of the kids.
“I was furious.”
She then asked other Mumsnet users if she was “being irrational” in defending her point of view.
However, not everyone agrees with her and some think she is being irrational.
One wrote: “You are being irrational for a few reasons.
“Firstly for not pre-booking your seats. And if they had all been separated, you would have had to ask the people who paid for their selection to move out.
“For making a martyr of yourself. Why didn’t you just say you’d have the child next for you and could he have the baby with him?
He didn’t move from his chair once. I saw him go to the bathroom. But not once did he come up to our row, did he ask how we were or take one of the kids
anonymous mother
“For being mad about it but not bothering to ask him. If you couldn’t get to him, a butler would have helped.
Another added: “You knew before you walked in that your seats weren’t together. Even if, as others have said, he booked it, it still should have been a conversation you had before getting on the plane.
“There’s no way I would have accepted that. I would have played an adult and a child.
“And if he thought he was running away with no responsibility for the entire flight, I would have asked a member of staff to go get him if I couldn’t get his attention myself.”
But in defense, the anonymous mother responded: “I booked the seats but it was too late to get seats together. I assumed we would be switching.
“Kids can be very clingy to me, especially when we are somewhere different.
Not a good sign
“However, he could have come and talked to us and seen how we were doing.
“The lady sitting next to me was also shocked by his behavior.
“She’s been divorced twice herself and said ‘that’s not a good sign.’ ‘you deserve better’.
“It was funny at the end, when he showed up, the lady looked him up and down and gave him the dirtiest look.”
But someone else chimed in asking, “Why did you say it was okay if it wasn’t?
“Why did you martyr yourself and have the two children?”
Others were confused as to why she didn’t check the seating arrangement before leaving.
There’s no way I would have accepted that. I would have made an adult and a child
Commentator
One of them said: “Didn’t you check the seating arrangement before you left?
“Did you or DH (Dear Husband) not ensure you were seated together when you checked in online?
“If your DH reserved seats, maybe it wasn’t a coincidence. After all, he got the best deal. No responsibility for the entire flight
“I would have a talk with him. You should be glowing.
But not everyone was against her, as many thought her husband was wrong.
One wrote: “He just showed you how much he respects you and how much he cares about you or your children.
Different Parenting Techniques
Here are some widely recognized methods:
Authorized Parenthood
This technique often promotes independence, self-discipline and high self-esteem in children.
Often considered the most effective, this technique involves parents setting clear expectations – enforcing rules – while also demonstrating affection and support.
Authoritative Parenting
This is the opposite of authoritarian parenting, as this is where parents set high demands but have little responsiveness.
It involves ensuring that the child is obedient and often employing punitive measures. While this can lead to disciplined behavior, it can also result in lower self-esteem and social skills in children.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parents tend to be lenient and tolerant, often taking on a role more like that of a friend than that of an authority figure. They are highly responsive but lack demandingness, providing children with a lot of freedom. This method can encourage creativity and a free-spirited nature, but it can also result in poor self-regulation and difficulties with authority.
Uninvolved Fatherhood
Uninvolved or neglectful parenting is marked by low responsiveness and low demands. Parents in this category offer minimal guidance, affection, or attention. This often leaves children feeling neglected, which can have significant negative effects on their emotional and social development.
Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter parents are extremely involved and overprotective, often micromanaging their children’s lives. Although its aim is to protect and support, this approach can harm a child’s ability to develop independence and problem-solving skills.
Outdoor Parenting
Outdoor parenting encourages children to explore and learn from the environment around them with minimal parental interference. This method promotes independence and resilience, but requires a safe and supportive environment to be successful.
Parental Attachment
According to Casamento.comAttachment creation focuses on physical closeness and emotional bonding, often through practices such as co-sleeping and baby wearing. This approach aims to create secure attachments and emotional well-being, but requires significant time and emotional commitment from parents.
Each of these parenting techniques has its own set of strengths and weaknesses. The key is to find a balanced approach that aligns with the family’s values and meets the child’s needs for a healthy, happy upbringing.
“Selfish through and through.
“I wouldn’t let it go. I assume you will make sure he has the kids on the return trip?
A second added: “I would be angry even if I didn’t offer to take one of the kids, didn’t come and talk to all of you.”
A third wrote: “I would be very angry. You should have had one child each!!!!! How unfair.”
While another person fully expressed their thoughts, saying: “He’s an idiot but I guess your first response wasn’t helpful, you said you’d be fine, why offer that, you should have said you’d do the first two hours for example then he You can do the final and you would change it on the way back.
“Besides, how did you not know your seats weren’t together? Assuming you didn’t pay to reserve seats, you were given a random allocation, but you would know that at check-in.”
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