I get so many comments about being a single mother of four – but I don’t even make them lunch, it’s peace and quiet for me

A SINGLE mother of four has insisted that although she gets so many comments about how “busy” her life is, it’s actually the opposite.

Sofia I took it to TikTok as she explained the reasons why she would rather have four children than be a mother of just one.

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“The comment I get most about being a single mom with four kids is, ‘Damn, I couldn’t do it’ and ‘You must be so busy,'” she said.

“One that makes me think I’m not that busy. Shit, am I missing something?

“And 2. Oh, no, no, it’s you with a son I salute.

“Because I couldn’t do it, I couldn’t do it!”

Sophie went on to explain that with a child there is always someone asking them to play with them.

However, when a child has siblings, they have someone to play with them all the time.

“While your son is asking you to sit down and do arts and crafts, my 4 kids are jumping on the trampoline with a broomstick trying to hit each other with it,” Sophie continued.

“But you know what? It’s peace and tranquility for me.

“We are going to a party, my children are gone.

“You with your only child who sits next to you and is anxious and scared because there is no one else.

“Me and my 4 kids go to a party and mine start a WWE wrestling match in the bouncy castle, eating the buffet before it even opens.”

And when it comes to feeding her children, Sophie’s are so independent that they almost do it themselves.

“While your son says, ‘Mommy, Mommy, can we please have a little picnic, just you and me?’, mine doesn’t need lunch,” she said.

“They broke into the closets, made a hideout upstairs and are now carrying out a snack attack inside.

“With a film all together.

“And I don’t have to do anything…I can just sit here in peace and quiet.”

Different Parenting Styles Explained

There are four recognized parenting styles explained below:

Authoritative Parenting

What some might describe as “regimental” or “strict” parenting.

Parents with this style focus on strict rules, obedience, and discipline.

Authoritarian parents assume decision-making power, rarely giving their children any input on the matter.

When it comes to rules, you believe it’s “my way or the highway.”

Permissive Parenting

Often referred to as ‘soft parenting’ or ‘yes moms/dads’.

Permissive parents are tolerant and only intervene when there is a serious problem.

They are very forgiving and adopt a “kids will be kids” attitude.

They often act more like friends than authority figures.

Authorized Parenthood

Authoritarian parents provide rules and limits to their children, but they also give them freedom to make decisions.

With an authoritarian parenting style, parents validate their children’s feelings while making it clear that adults are ultimately in charge.

They use positive reinforcement techniques, such as praise and reward systems, as opposed to harsh punishments.

Neglectful or uninvolved parenting

Essentially, neglectful parents ignore their children, who receive little guidance, affection and attention from their parents.

They don’t set rules or expectations and tend to have minimal knowledge about what their children are doing.

Uninvolved parents expect their children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs.

Uninvolved parents can be negligent, but it is not always intentional. A parent with mental health or substance abuse issues, for example, may not be able to consistently care for a child’s physical or emotional needs.

Sophie concluded by saying that although “theoretically” she is “busy” with four children, she only needs to make “minimal” effort.

“And actually, I don’t know how you, with a child, can do that,” she reflected.

“That’s a lot of effort for me. I did it on purpose so I could make fewer comments.

“And I did it.

“Well done for being that full-time mom and all, because I can’t do it!”