A PROUD helicopter mom has shared her controversial parenting quirks online – and doesn’t mind if she ruffles a few feathers.
Rosie Graham, mother of three, shared that she gives her children extra homework because she doesn’t feel like she can count on schools to provide them with a well-rounded education.
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The 29-year-old, from Bedfordshire, insisted the additional workload works wonders for her three sons, Hunter, six, Dakota, five, and Saint, two.
This includes doing worksheets on the weekend, as well as learning various life skills and helping around the house.
Rosie, a stay-at-home mom, said What is the jelly: “I don’t just trust the school system to educate my children because teachers are under a lot of pressure to teach well with a mountain of paperwork.
“They don’t have time to work one-on-one with the kids and give my kids their full attention when it comes to teaching.
“The UK school system is underfunded and it is unfair to expect teachers to teach an entire class with varying needs to an exceptional level.
“I see the school system as supporting my children’s education. It’s a luxury that so many people around the world don’t have access to education.”
Rosie praised her children’s teachers, but said the responsibility shouldn’t fall solely on them.
She added: “It’s not a teacher’s job to raise our children – it’s our job.
“My children’s school has fantastic teachers, but that doesn’t mean I have to rely solely on them.
“As a parent it is my responsibility to ensure my children are educated, the school system is a luxury bonus.
“We do math, English and science every weekend, in the form of worksheets, experiments and daily routines.
“Saint also does extra activities to practice his fine motor skills, flash cards and educational games.
“I also teach them life skills: cooking, cleaning and survival, how to build shelter, stay safe in water and identify plants.”
STRICT ROUTINES
Rosie, who shares her insights on TikTok (@liferaisingthree), also has strict meal and bedtimes that her children follow.
She explained: “Children between these ages need 10 to 14 hours of sleep per night.
“When they sleep, their heart rate and blood pressure decrease, allowing the heart to refuel and rest.
“Children need a good amount of sleep for good development – especially brain development.
I prepare dinner before the kids get home from school so that as soon as they arrive they can eat a nutritious meal
Rosie Graham
“I am often told that they go to bed very early – between 6pm and 6:30pm – but they fall asleep within minutes and sleep 12 hours a night.
“I don’t care if Jane in the future lets her kids stay up until 10pm because she can’t be bothered to set a bedtime routine. It doesn’t affect me.
“I’ve been doing this routine with my children for years, so it’s normal for them.
“They have dinner, play and we relax together, then we have a bath, story and bed.
Different Parenting Styles Explained
There are four recognized parenting styles explained below:
Authoritative Parenting
What some might describe as “regimental” or “strict” parenting.
Parents with this style focus on strict rules, obedience, and discipline.
Authoritarian parents assume decision-making power, rarely giving their children any input on the matter.
When it comes to rules, you believe it’s “my way or the highway.”
Permissive Parenting
Often referred to as ‘soft parenting’ or ‘yes moms/dads’.
Permissive parents are tolerant and only intervene when there is a serious problem.
They are very forgiving and adopt a “kids will be kids” attitude.
They often act more like friends than authority figures.
Authorized Parenthood
Authoritarian parents provide rules and limits to their children, but they also give them freedom to make decisions.
With an authoritarian parenting style, parents validate their children’s feelings while making it clear that adults are ultimately in charge.
They use positive reinforcement techniques, such as praise and reward systems, as opposed to harsh punishments.
Neglectful or uninvolved parenting
Essentially, neglectful parents ignore their children, who receive little guidance, affection and attention from their parents.
They don’t set rules or expectations and tend to have minimal knowledge about what their children are doing.
Uninvolved parents expect their children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs.
Uninvolved parents can be negligent, but it is not always intentional. A parent with mental health or substance abuse issues, for example, may not be able to consistently care for a child’s physical or emotional needs.
“I prepare dinner before the kids get home from school so that as soon as they arrive they can have a nutritious meal.
“It doesn’t make sense for me to give them a snack when they arrive only for them to tell me they are full and aren’t going to have dinner.
“There are currently no exceptions to this – after school clubs run from 4.30pm so they eat before heading out.”
Rosie, who also doesn’t allow her children to sleep over at anyone’s house other than an immediate relative’s house, is also cautious about excessive screen time, emphasizing outdoor play.
She admitted: “I’m not trying to raise children who live through a screen.
We don’t use technology during the week
Rosie Graham
“As long as you have the right clothes and shoes, there’s no reason why kids shouldn’t explore the outdoors in all weathers.
“It encourages them to use their imagination, social skills, teamwork and improves their physical health.
“My kids love being outdoors and can only use their tablets on weekends.
“We don’t use technology during the week and we spend quality time together.
“They don’t spend their time sitting at consoles – we are together enjoying nature.
“They also wake up early, so we spend two to three hours together before school.”
POCKET MONEY AND FINES
Rosie also chooses to pay her children an allowance, which she thinks helps teach discipline and budgeting skills.
She said: “Children receive £8 pocket money a week. They have to save £3 and earn £5 to spend at the weekend if they have been respectful and done things like making their bed during the week.
“If they don’t, they will get £1 off for every time they are disrespectful to us or each other.
My family and friends know I’m a self-confessed control freak, so they’re used to it
Rosie Graham
“It’s important that this consequence is implemented because otherwise they won’t learn cause and effect.
“They will grow up thinking it’s okay to act disrespectfully because no consequences will occur and that doesn’t happen in the real world.
“My family and friends know I’m a self-confessed control freak, so they’re used to it.”
Online, Rosie said she has faced criticism for the way she raises her children.
She concluded: “I often get comments online saying ‘poor kids’, ‘they don’t have fun’ and ‘when do you spend time with them?’
“But these are comments often made by lazy parents who lack the discipline to implement and maintain such a routine.
“I often receive hateful and abusive comments on my social media.
“But if that’s what it takes to raise respectful, smart, resilient, kind, and caring kids, then I’m okay with that.”
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