AS PARENTS, we all want to give our children the best start in life.
However, this does not always mean that they have to sacrifice everything for their children.
But a mother was left furious after calling her husband selfish for choosing early retirement rather than helping his daughter.
She asked: “Do you think it’s selfish for parents to retire early when their children are renting?”
In the social media post, she revealed that she was not impressed with her husband’s plans.
“Dh (husband) decided he will retire at 59,” she explained.
“He has a great government pension and private pensions/savings. He earns a decent £50,000 a year (the same as me) and we don’t have a mortgage.”
While it seems like they are living a pretty comfortable life, especially during the cost of living crisis, it seemed like their son was not.
No, he’s not being selfish, leave him alone
Mumsnet user
The mother revealed that her daughter was still renting and was struggling to save up to buy her own house.
“I said DH should continue working for another year or 18 months and give the money to DD (daughter) as a fixed deposit.”
She added: “Just to add, his job is very stressful, 9pm to 4pm, completely remote.”
Although the mother was adamant that her husband should continue working and help his daughter – not everyone agreed.
She took it to Mothers Network asking for advice on the situation, but the comments section was seriously divided.
While many said it was up to the husband to decide whether he wanted to retire early, others said he should help his daughter.
One person wrote: “I agree, op. I am a single mother, but I will definitely sacrifice to ensure my children move up the real estate career ladder, including retiring later.
Another commented: “For 1 more year of work, yes, I would do that for my kids, especially if I was 59 (versus 70 or something).”
Early retirement in the UK
The government website states that you can only claim your state pension once you have reached your state pension age.
You will have to wait to claim your State Pension if you retire before reaching this age.
For personal and work pensions you can receive them early if:
- you are retiring early because of health problems
- you were entitled, under the plan you signed up to before 6 April 2006, to receive your pension before the age of 55 – ask your pension provider if you are unsure
“No, he shouldn’t continue working. Your adult children can save for their own deposit,” wrote a third.
Meanwhile, a fourth said: “There comes a time when children have to support themselves. There is nothing wrong with helping, but no, if someone wants to retire, they should do it whenever they want.”
“Haha! He can retire if he wants at 59. It’s his choice,” said a fifth.
Another person added: “No he’s not being selfish, leave him alone.”
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