A mother has opened up about how she feels about her children.
Posting in Redditthe mother explained how her two children are very different from her in terms of their personalities and tastes.
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The post’s headline read: “Sad to see how my children are so different from me.”
And the 39-year-old explained how she felt unable to talk about how she feels “on the inside”. [her] family circles because it’s… bad.”
She said: “My two children are nothing like me.
“I’m extroverted and love being outdoors, trying adventurous foods, staying active, large gatherings, reading and listening to or creating music.
“My boys are homebodies who prefer games and snacks.
“To some extent, I know this is common for most kids, but I didn’t expect to have to fight with them to introduce them to some of my interests.”
Your children are 10 and 7 years old and when they went on vacation to SpringThey tried snow skiinga tandem bike ride, book launch, as well as a larger outdoor concert.”
But “none of them had any interest and were actively rejected by the little ones”.
She added: “I’m learning that I need to let go of some expectations and stop trying to project my interests onto my children.
“But my God, I’m so sad about this.”
The post continued: “I also put off some of these things until I got older, thinking maybe it was a matter of being tired or unfamiliar, or hungry, or something.
“But that’s not really the case here. They actually prefer their own home environment and their little family snacks and games.
“I think we’re just different people.”
The thread has around 100 comments, all offering support and advice or listening to the mother.
A mother shared the same experience: “I’m with you.
“So far, it seems like I have practically nothing in common with my two children, and sometimes that bothers me a little.”
I’m sad because my daughter is a lot like me… I hope she doesn’t end up like me.”
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Others warned about the dangers of screen time and said: “It’s the game. Very addictive.”
Another person recommended that the mother “separate herself from her children” and try to “see them as individuals with their own needs and desires.”
They added: “I understand you are disappointed, but you created that disappointment by having expectations that they would be like you.”
However, one Reddit user saw it from a different perspective: “Sometimes I feel sad because my daughter is so much like me in terms of personality. I hope she doesn’t end up like me.
How to deal with this situation according to an expert
Vinodha Joly, a licensed psychotherapist, explained how “most parents have some expectations that their children will be like them” and shared the same interests.
She noted that it’s common for parents to “be disappointed when their children are different or don’t meet their expectations.”
The expert issued a stern warning to parents who fail to see their children as their own people.
She said: “Unfortunately, parents who are unable to see and appreciate who their child really is can harm their children’s development by projecting their own wants, needs and expectations onto them.
“When a child feels that a parent is disappointed with the way he/she is, it creates a deep scar in the child’s psyche and a lack of feelings of self-worth.
“A child needs unconditional acceptance from their parents to develop their autonomy, reach their potential and become who they really are,” she said. Children’s space.
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