‘This is NOT innocent’ people scream as wife insists her husband is not a cheater but he talks to his wife ‘several times a day’

EVERYONE needs a best friend at work, especially because conversations in the kitchen or over lunch help make the day go by faster.

One woman, however, revealed that her husband is becoming “very close” to a colleague, who calls him “several times a day” and even sends him Snapchats.

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Despite his concerns, the anonymous woman insists her husband is not being unfaithful.

After sharing her story on Mumsnet, others in the thread say a married woman has every right to be concerned.

In the lengthy post, the anonymous user revealed that her husband and she had been together for a decade.

But poignantly, it was just before the thirtysomething couple discovered they were pregnant that things started to go wrong.

“To begin with, he didn’t like this girl very much, he called her boring and some others not so much. Cool things,” the poster explained, adding, “Then as they started working together more, they became good friends.”

However, the 23-year-old became increasingly “disrespectful” as time went on.

“My problem is that I think she’s being a little disrespectful and so is he,” revealed the worried wife, who was fed up with her husband’s behavior.

She added: “They text all the time, send each other Snapchat photos and she calls him at least once a day. Sometimes several times a day.”

“He always puts her on speaker, so I know the conversation is innocent. She will literally call just to tell you what she had for lunch that day.”

This is despite the pair working 12-hour shifts together.

Surprisingly, this happened during pregnancy and even after the Mumsnet user had just given birth.

Continuing, she wrote: “My partner doesn’t see the problem and just sees her as a friendly person and said it would be rude to tell her to stop as they are good friends.

“I just feel like a young single woman shouldn’t be texting and calling a married man who just had a baby all the time.”

Although she insisted her husband wasn’t cheating on her, the original poster was desperate for the 23-year-old to ‘back off’.

“I just want to make it clear that I don’t think he’s cheating on her or anything,” she confessed, before asking, “Am I being unreasonable in asking him to tell her to back off a little?”

Needless to say, other members of the group had thoughts about their spouse’s bad behavior – with many directing their anger at him.

“It’s not good at all. Tell him this needs to stop. You can no longer allow this to happen. It’s not innocent,” one user complained.

Others agreed, with another questioning why her husband wasn’t focusing on his young family.

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They wrote: “Your husband should prioritize you and your new baby right now.

“Even if he doesn’t see the problem himself, it should be enough that it’s making you uncomfortable and he should have the common sense and decency to calm it down.”

Some also accused the husband of “encouraging” the younger woman’s bad behavior.

A third argued: “You say a young single woman shouldn’t message a married man – nothing about the fact that her husband shouldn’t message a younger single colleague.

“You talk as if she is always the one initiating contact, rather than acknowledging the fact that he will encourage her and keep the conversation going.”

To which a fourth responded: “I believe it’s okay for people to have friends of the opposite sex, but this is too much… I wouldn’t accept that.

“This is emotional subject territory.

“It’s not normal to call friends every day like this, I expected him to give up on this friendship.”

We asked ourselves how we would feel in this situation.

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What is emotional betrayal and what to watch out for?

Would you be able to tell if your partner was ’emotionally’ cheating?

Emotional betrayal occurs when your partner seeks the same emotional closeness in a relationship, without crossing physical boundaries.

It can evolve from a platonic friendship over time, with spouses focusing their attention on others rather than their partner.

Often there is an underlying sexual attraction between the spouse and the other person. However, this is not always implemented.

Here are some important warning signs:

• Your spouse spends less time with you or actively withdraws
• Your partner may be secretive about your friendship
• They may suddenly have new interests and hobbies, often spending more time with others
• New or existing friend is mentioned a lot
• You feel something is wrong
• Your partner may feel defensive about the friendship
• You feel uncomfortable spending time with your friend