DUE to the cost of living crisis, couples are spending a lot less on wedding rings.
In fact, experts estimate that the average cost has fallen from £1,000 to between £300 and £600.
And now, a woman has shared how she wants to ditch her “very cheap” bracelet in favor of a new piece of jewelry she inherited from her grandmother.
According to the wife, her grandmother’s wedding ring was worn for a whopping 68 years.
It was made from 18 carat yellow gold, while the current one is a tungsten carbide ring worth around £40.
Since inheriting the family heirloom, she has decided that she wants to replace her “cheap” bracelet with her grandmother’s feminine piece.
But her husband is vehemently against the idea.
The woman turned to Mumsnet for advice after her husband flatly refused the switch.
“My grandparents’ marriage lasted 68 years until her death at 90,” she wrote.
“I really look to them as a model of commitment and the meaning of marriage.
“I would like to clean and resize the ring a bit and wear it in place of my very cheap wedding band, in memory of my grandmother and her commitment to my marriage.
“I asked my husband just now and he doesn’t want me to do it.
“He can’t say why, other than my grandmother’s ring isn’t the one I married with.”
“I only mentioned that my ring was cheap so it’s clear that it wasn’t because of the cost of my ring that my husband said no.”
People quickly called the woman “irrational” and questioned why she “doesn’t just wear her grandmother’s ring on her right hand.”
“He said that, but I don’t know,” she replied.
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“I feel like I don’t want to use it on my right.”
Critics said “there are many options” other than completely replacing the original wedding ring.
“A wedding ring is a commitment, not an accessory,” said one.
However, others assured the wife that she was not being unreasonable.
“It’s just a ring, who cares,” said one supporter.
“Your husband is not being very understanding.
“I don’t even wear my ring anymore and I’ve been happily married for over 20 years.”
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