A GIRL mother has admitted she regrets having children for a number of reasons including how it changed her appearance and lack of social life.
She revealed that she wished her husband hadn’t convinced her to become a mother because motherhood wasn’t what she expected or wanted.
New mom BendyGirl85 posted her postpartum worries on the What to Expect online community.
She posted in the group because it was an anonymous platform and she felt like she couldn’t share how she felt with the people in her life.
She clarified that she loves her daughter “very much” and would never want her to feel unwanted.
But she could no longer contain her feelings.
CHILDREN’S CONCERNS
“I regret having children. I never wanted children, but after I met my husband, he wanted them and I let him and society in general talk me into it,” she explained.
After the pregnancy and childbirth, she said her life changed, but her husband’s did not.
She clarified that she does not have postpartum depression and simply misses her “old life” before having children.
“I get so bored at home looking after a baby all day,” she admitted.
She’s also upset because she can’t fit into the old clothes she still loves.
“I miss my pre-baby body,” she added.
WEIGHT CONCERNS
The anonymous poster revealed that she has gained over 20 pounds and is three dress sizes bigger than her pre-baby body.
“I’m trying to lose weight, but I can barely do a 20-minute workout a day,” she said.
Taking care of a child is not only time-consuming but also tiring.
“I miss being able to sleep in whenever I want and sleeping out on the weekends,” she admitted.
She also said that she “never played with children” and that hasn’t changed since she had one.
SIMPLE LIFE
“People say ‘do what you did before you had kids, but do it with them’, but I can’t,” she explained.
Before having her daughter, she enjoyed solitary activities such as reading, gardening, hiking, traveling, and frequent camping with her husband.
“While technically you can do this with children, it is much more difficult and not the same experience,” she added.
The two times the couple went camping after the birth of their daughter, she didn’t enjoy the experience because she was taking care of her.
After airing her feelings, she asked others in the family planning community if things would get better in the future or if they would bring “a new set of problems and concerns.”
Several mothers offered supportive comments and feedback.
“Is returning to work an option? I love my son, but I love him even more when I can spend time outside and use my brain at work,” one suggested.
“We had a lot of fun before and after work and on my days off. I feel like we have more quality time and I’m more present.”
“I would like to say that your feelings are valid. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I’m also glad you’re being honest with yourself,” commented another.
“Becoming a father is just a new stage in life and you’re right, nothing is the same.”
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