A bridesmaid has sparked a debate after saying she is stepping down and refusing to attend her best friend’s wedding after receiving her invitation.
The woman shared in a video how the bride refused to invite her husband despite being together for five years.
In it @_yoursafespace_e account, she wrote: “Please stop scrolling. Am I the idiot? “My best friend is getting married next month, and I left my position as bridesmaid, and now I’m being labeled a bad person.
“My best friend was proposed in March and her wedding was next month.
“Of course, she asked me to be her bridesmaid and I accepted.
“I helped her with the entire wedding preparation process, from the wedding dress to the food and drinks.
“She even told me she doesn’t know how she would have coped without me.
“Anyway, the wedding is strictly by invitation, so I received my wedding invitation, but there was a problem.
“No one else on the invitation.
“I’ve been married for two years, and although my husband and my best friend aren’t close, they are cordial with each other, so I thought this was probably a mistake.”
The woman said she asked her best friend about it and was told they were only inviting people they knew personally.
The bridesmaid said she was “confused” by the snub, as she dated her partner for three years before they got married two years ago.
The woman asked the bride if she considered her husband a “stranger” and was told “no”, but that she was her friend and not him.
The bridesmaid continued: “I was even more perplexed and asked why she would exclude my husband from my invitation and told me if she had a problem with him or if he had done something to her.
“She said no, she just didn’t want to invite people who weren’t her friends to the wedding.
“I told her I wouldn’t go to the wedding if my husband wasn’t invited, and she told me I was selfish.
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“It was her day and she had every right to decide who would receive the invitation.
“I told her that was correct, but I also had the right to decline an invitation if the conditions for participating did not suit me.
“I wasn’t forcing her to invite him; we simply wouldn’t be there.
“I told my husband about this and although he thought it was strange since they were nice to each other, he asked me to go but I said no.
I was even more perplexed and asked why she would exclude my husband from my invitation and told me if she had a problem with him or if he had done something to her
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“If she didn’t value my married enough to include my wife, so she can get married without me. He tried to dissuade me, but I stood my ground.”
The woman shared how her stance attracted “support and criticism” from friends and family.
She added: “Some said I should stop throwing tantrums and allow the bride to do whatever she wanted as it was her wedding, while others said I was right.
“I’m starting to think maybe I should have just respected her wishes since my husband said I could go.
Should bridesmaids have a date at weddings?
CHOOSING your wedding guest list can be one of the trickiest parts of a wedding – especially when it comes to extra guests. But should you bring your partner if you’re in the bridal party? Fabulous writer Becky Pemberton – who has been a bridesmaid seven times – gives her opinion…
It’s always an honor to be invited to a bridal party, and as a close friend, your priority is to ensure the bride has the day of her dreams.
I’m a big believer in “your marriage, your rules.”
Many people forego having the day they really want, allowing other people to have their say and doing what they think other people expect them to do.
If you want a small wedding or don’t have the budget to invite a lot of people, invite only those who will make the dream truly magical for you.
Don’t abandon close friends, just so someone else can have your companion.
When you’re in the bridal party, you focus on the bride and making sure she has the best day — you often don’t have time to fully hang out with your partner.
If they don’t know anyone else, it might be more fun to spend a day with the girls.
That being said, if you are close friends, you will probably want your partner to be close to the bride and groom in an ideal world.
It can be a beautiful feeling when the bride and groom invite their partner as it can show that they see them as friends and also value them in their lives.
But what do the experts say?
Wedding expert Amber Harrison said Vogue everyone in the bridal party must be assigned a plus one.
She wrote: “Not only does a happy wedding party make a happy couple, but allowing a bridesmaid to bring her new boyfriend, for example, is a small token of appreciation you can offer in return for their efforts and support.”
“However, a part of me still finds it very hurtful that she would consider my husband someone she didn’t know well enough to invite to her wedding.
“She had just started falling in love her fiancé when I got married, but he was invited to my wedding, so why use double standards?
“Please help.”
Many people criticized the bride for snubbing the bridesmaid’s husband.
One person wrote: “Is she joining her husband in marriage and separating you from yours? Really?”
Another added: “My husband and I are one, if he’s not going, I’m not going either!”
However, some people supported the bride.
One person commented: “It’s her wedding. If her decision for CLOSE FRIENDS only hurts you, you are free to make your decision. The bride did nothing wrong.
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