How to Rock Your Lover’s World and Have the Best Sex of Your Life with 25 Tips… From Writing Love Checks to Kissing Their Eyelids

WHEN it comes to pleasing your lover, sex coach Rebecca Dakin knows more than most.

Now she hopes to help Sun on Sunday readers with her guide to happiness in the bedroom.

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The former high-class escort, 48, said: “You need to be in tune with your partner, be tactile, curious and have a genuine desire to please and be satisfied.

“During my decade as an escort, most of the pleasures I provided men were based on very basic intimacy.”

The former international call girl now teaches women and couples how to keep things simmering.

And the new edition of her 2016 guide, The Great British Sexpert’s 101 Sex Tips, aims to help readers have the best sex of their lives.

She said: “These tips and techniques will equip you with the basics from which true intimacy – and therefore great sex – can grow.”

Today Rebecca shares with Sarah Arnold her 25 tips for rocking your lover’s world.

1. Be open to experimentation. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to do things.

It’s about trying things and wanting to give pleasure.

Let go of that fear of doing things wrong and you will truly learn what your partner likes.

2. Find your erogenous zones. Don’t think you can lick behind his knee and he’ll go crazy.

Erogenous zones are used to create anticipation.

Start by laying your lover on their back and kissing them deeply before beginning your journey of exploring their body.

Pay as much attention to a response like a shudder or movement toward you as you do to moans and groans.

3. See your body as a “point to point”. Kiss, lick and caress the areas between each spot, from head to toe.

Sex should be a full-body experience.

Work from one zone to another.

Listen for short inhales, biting your lower lip, and tilting your head back, which signal pleasure zones.

4. Kiss your eyelids and suck them gently. Placing light kisses all over the face while you hold the head or face can be a highly erotic and intimate act.

5. Talk dirty. Tell him explicitly what you want him to do, with a devilish smile playing on your lips to get him in the mood.

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6. Try writing a love checkS. A handmade checkbook-style notebook can bring spontaneity when you least expect it.

The idea is that he can profit whenever he feels like it. For example, someone could be wearing suspenders.

7. Kissing and nibbling on the back can be very erotic. Try using your breasts to press against his back at the same time.

Lightly use your fingernails to scrape up and down, or try dragging hair or a feather under it.

8. Seduce your partner when he returns from work.

When they walk in the door, don’t talk, just a deep French kiss.

Take them quietly to your room or tear off their clothes right there.

9. Massage your scalp. Start by placing both hands on your partner’s head during the kiss to pull them deeper into you, and as you continue kissing, use your fingertips with firm pressure to circle their scalp.

10. Penetrate your tongue through closed lips. Our lips have hundreds of nerve endings.

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11. Licking your ears. You can gently use your tongue to trace the outline of the ear and ear hole.

It can be deeply sensual.

12. Trace your tongue and suck on your neck. Kiss your partner and suck with your mouth.

You want to get to the point where you leave no mark.

13. Take a bubble bath together. Water and bubbles can help your hands glide over each other more easily.

Giving each other a bath is very erotic. Consider using a soapy sponge.

14. Use scented lotion or oil. Let them rub and massage you with it.

15. Breathe and moan in their ear. Make the sounds of pleasure you make when you think about enjoying your favorite ice cream.

16. Leave nasty notes at home or on work clothes. This creates excitement and anticipation.

Write down exactly what you want them to do and put it in their bag, jacket or pants for them to find at work.

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17. Make them fantasize about you. If you are away overnight, place a snide note next to the bed.

18. Have sex with each other. If you have a trusting partnership, text sex is a great way to get your partner in the mood.

Start teasing them throughout the day, telling them what you’re going to do with them when they get home.

This way, you create excitement and anticipation.

19. Nibble your ears. Start with the earlobes and then lick behind the ear – this can be highly erotic.

20. Tell them how sexy you think they are. Talk about something you are doing or want to do that reminds you of them.

For example: “I just bought some sexy lace panties – and I’m thinking about what I can do to you later.”

21. Be confident in your own skin. Feeling comfortable naked is important if you want to enjoy sex and truly connect with your lover.

Do whatever it takes to achieve this.

I’ve learned that men don’t care what size or shape you are, they care if you’re confident in the way you look – it’s one of the biggest things that turns him on.

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22. Don’t turn off the lights. Turning them off or diving under the covers can be a huge turn-off.

If you’re really self-conscious, tone them down a little – but keep them on.

23. Say your partner’s name during sex. It really makes things more intimate.

Just make sure you get their name right.

But don’t do this if you’ve recently broken up with someone, in case the wrong name slips out.

24. Eat chocolate. Research has shown that women who eat chocolate every day have higher libidos than those who don’t.

25. Go to a sex shop together. The team has seen it all before and won’t judge.

Try on clothes and lingerie and show them to your partner through the dressing room curtain – ask which one they like best.