A FORMER trading wife has revealed the difficulties she faced when she got divorced and had to learn basic skills such as driving a car.
A traditional wife (short for traditional wife) is a woman who chooses to take on an ultra-traditional role in her marriage, meaning she cooks dinner and looks pretty while her husband goes to work.
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Traditional wives choose to dress in the style of clothing popular during this period (think floral dresses and slouchy cardigans).
Furthermore, the values considered important to the traditions are similar to strict Christian values.
Traditional wives maintain that they are not forced into this way of life and believe that their purpose is to be homemakers.
Ophelia Maraschino revealed that she was a trans wife 10 years ago, after getting married very young, at 17 years old.
In a TikTok video, Ophelia, who is from Melbourne, Australia, said that at 21 she had two children under the age of three and spent all her time looking after them and her husband.
She explained that children could only attend a Steiner school, where they were not allowed to use screens or technology.
The mother described the school as “cultured” and said she herself would not have chosen to send her children there, but she had no choice.
Ophelia said that when she was a cheating wife, she loved her husband “unconditionally” and would do anything he said.
Unlike many traditional wives, Ophelia said she worked, but only seven hours a week.
She said: “It was not enough to have financial independence, but to have a little pocket money.”
Upon realizing that life as a trad wife was not for her, Ophelia decided to leave, but said she was unable to earn money due to her lack of work history.
The mother of two is now 34, has just started her course and has learned to drive.
“I’m a good 10-15 years behind everyone else my age in terms of organizing my finances and building a career for myself,” she said.
Ophelia warned other women against following the traditional wife lifestyle as she said if they ever get divorced they will have a very difficult time finding a job.
The mother’s video, which was posted under the username @ophelia.maraschinoit probably struck a chord with a lot of people as it racked up over 174,000 views on the video-sharing platform.
Signs of financial abuse
- preventing you from going to work, college or university
- causing you to lose benefits by not allowing you to attend Job Center appointments or apply for jobs
- controlling your access to essential things like food, clothing or transport.
- forces you to withdraw money or get credit in your name
- makes you hand over control of your accounts – this may include changing your login details
- cashes your pension or other checks without your permission
- add their name to your account
- pressures you to change your will in a way you are not comfortable with
- offered to make purchases or pay bills with your money, but accepts and does not use the money as agreed
- asks you to prove what you spent your money on
- prevents you from accessing your bank, loan or credit card accounts
- controls where you can and cannot spend your money
- set up direct debits to your account to pay bills that don’t belong to you or pay for goods and services that you didn’t buy
- pressures you to have your benefits paid into a bank account you don’t have access to
- pressures you to withdraw, transfer or stop making pension payments
- forces you to take out new insurance policies or prevents payment for existing ones.
- To access help you can contact Women’s Aid: on your websiteand online chat service.
- You can also call the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 200 0247
TikTok users rushed to the video’s comments section to share their thoughts.
One person said: “I’m so proud of you.
“I left last year and it was the best thing I ever did.”
A second person said: “I was a wife hustler and got divorced at 28 and couldn’t be happier.”
A third added: “This is exactly why I would never be a trad wife.”
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