The attributes at the top of the list for British boyfriends are emotional intelligence, financial stability and relationships with friends.
A survey of 2,000 adults who are falling in love found that they would like to see someone who could stimulate them intellectually (19 percent) and who had a good sense of style (15 percent).
Almost eight in 10 (79 percent) want a potential partner to have qualities they themselves do not possess, in a bid to make the relationship more fulfilling.
The research was commissioned by Lux dating site Searching.comlooking at the emergence of a new dating trend she calls “modern hypergamy.”
Emma Hathorn, a spokeswoman for the luxury dating site, said: “Traditional hypergamy consisted of marrying for financial or social gain.
“Modern hypergamy, however, involves much more. Reflects a shift towards valuing growth and sharing benefits in relationships.”
The study found that 73 percent of respondents believe a “modern Hypergamous approach” to dating can contribute to personal growth and discovery.
More than half (57 percent) intentionally sought out a partner who possessed characteristics or values that complement their own.
And when a potential partner doesn’t meet all the requirements, 43 percent are now more open-minded, compared to 23 percent who are disappointed.
While 55 percent were surprised to date someone who wasn’t their usual “type.”
When it comes to common attributes that daters believe they bring to the table, being a good cook (36%) tops the list.
One in three are “active listeners” and want to know how their partner’s day was, while 19% think they have a strong sense of style.
With previous partners, 31 percent of respondents were in conflict always or often, with different communication styles being the most common reason.
Although 29 percent had contradictory values and beliefs, 23 percent had different attitudes toward financial management or expenses, and 20 percent had different aspirations in terms of lifestyle or social status.
Of those who have changed their minds about what they are looking for, 43% believe they simply know themselves better now.
For 31 percent, they opened themselves up to new possibilities and found happiness simply by moving forward.
While 27 percent were introduced to new things and had their lives enriched in ways they “didn’t think possible”.
But 36 percent of those who participated in the OnePoll. with I think it’s very difficult to find someone who is truly perfect, with interests and values that perfectly complement yours.
Emma Hathorn, by Searching.comadded: “Being with someone who inspires you to grow and evolve can turn a good relationship into a great relationship.
“Choosing a partner who complements and enhances your attributes can lead to a deeply enriching and meaningful connection.
“A great relationship is one where both people are constantly learning and growing together.
“Whether it’s discovering new hobbies, exploring different cultures, or reaching personal milestones, having a partner who brings diverse strengths and insights can be incredibly rewarding.
Top 30 Traits Singles Look For
- Emotionally intelligent
- Can get along well with their friends and family
- Is financially stable and responsible
- Be happy to have relaxing, peaceful and ‘lazy’ days
- He is an animal lover
- An active listener and wants to know about my day
- Someone who knows what they want
- Stimulates me intellectually
- Likes children
- Has a good sense of style
- He’s a good cook
- It was successful
- Is ambitious with his work and career
- You have an active lifestyle and like to stay in shape
- Has a good circle of friends
- Likes going to the cinema
- Well traveled
- Enjoys outdoor activities and enjoys camping and hiking
- Likes going to festivals and music shows
- Likes to play sport
- Likes reading books
- Cares about the environment
- He’s a good driver
- Enjoy immersing yourself in different cultures
- Enjoy good food and wine
- Appreciate the good things in life
- Likes reality shows
- Likes going to the theater
- Provides advice and guidance about your personal life and career
- Likes going to comedy shows
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