A FURIOUS bride has sparked a debate after sending an £80 gift to her wedding guest.
Instead of buying a card to fill with money for the bride and groom, the guest allegedly transferred $100 – or £80 – a few days after the wedding, a move the bride dubbed an “afterthought”.
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Surprised by the gift, the woman – who also returned the money to the guest – decided to confront the person, and the exchange of messages left everyone divided.
“Hey, I got your $100 gift a few days after the wedding and honestly… kind of shocked and upset about it,” the bride said.
”It seems a bit disrespectful.”
The woman continued: “Not only were you late for my ceremony, but the absence of a card only contributed to it.
”His recent birthday invitation asked for $225 each and I would have done that without a second thought if I wasn’t getting married.”
”Still, receiving just $100 for MY WEDDING felt like an afterthought and a little tactless.
”I returned the money because keeping it was more painful than the initial disappointment.
”I suggest you take a good look at your relationships. If this is how you value friendships, it’s really disheartening.”
After receiving and reading the message, the perplexed guest responded, thinking she had done nothing wrong.
The response – which was shared on popular forum Reddit – also saw the guest reveal that she had traveled internationally to take part in the big day.
”Hi, I’m sorry you feel that way, it wasn’t my intention at all!
”Since I’m single and don’t drink, I always gave $100 as a wedding gift to my friends, as well as shower gifts.
”Also, I actually thought money transfer was the preferred method as that was what was on the record when I checked.
”I planned my international trip specifically so I could be in the city for your wedding, as I originally wouldn’t be.
Why it’s time to ditch wedding favors once and for all
By Josie Griffiths, Deputy Editor of Digital Fabulous and engaged
Josie Griffiths said: When was the last time you saw something in a store window or browsed online and thought “this would be the perfect gift for 120 of my closest friends, work colleagues, relatives and boyfriend’s partners I barely know” ?
I’ll tell you when, never, because there is NO universal gift that everyone will love – unless you want to go broke buying Rolexes and Tiffany jewelry, and even then they wouldn’t be to everyone’s taste.
So why are brides still piling on the stress (and expense) of wedding favors on top of everything else we have to organize?
I’ve been to dozens of weddings over the past five years, so when I got engaged, I already had a mental list of what to do and what not to do on my big day, and ditching the wedding favors was firmly on the agenda.
The cost of buying an individual gift for everyone who arrives is huge, which means many couples try to keep it in the under-five category.
But the reality is that no one wants a cheap, poorly thought out souvenir – they’d probably rather have a free drink at the bar.
It’s not just that: wedding bags are notoriously small, with no room to store an unexpected gift, and catering servers have a bad habit of taking away wedding favors when they’re clearing the coffee mug from the tables.
I bet none of my guests will notice a random gift missing from the dinner table.
If you really hate the idea of not buying something for your guests, charitable donations are always a nice gesture.
But the last thing your friends and family need is more random tattoos cluttering their homes — so it’s time to save them the guilt of throwing your Etsy-bought keychain in the trash.
The friend also explained the reason for the delay to the ceremony, apologizing in the process.
“I love you both so much and I was so thrilled to be there on your big day. I hope you also understand where I’m coming from,” wrote the friend who explained that one of the other guests she was driving to the wedding wasn’t ready on time.
The text exchange left other Redditors divided, with some understanding where the bride was coming from, while others considered the angry text message unnecessary.
”I can see where [the bride] come on, if you expect people to pay $225 per person to attend the birthday party you throw in your honor and donate $100 to do the same for theirs,” one person thought.
”Being late to a wedding is rude, no matter whose fault it is.”
Another commented: “Etiquette allows wedding gifts until the first year of marriage. Sending money without a card is tacky.
”Being late to a wedding is rude.”
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Meanwhile, someone else said: “I mean, I think I probably would have written a card for a wedding, and I think sending it on the day probably would have been nice.”
However, there were also many who felt that the bride was being very cruel to her friend.
As one reviewer put it: “The bride is rude and a birthday party where people have to pay $225 to attend is also tacky.”
”Talk is easy. It costs her nothing to say, “I TOTALLY would have paid $225 to attend your party.” But she didn’t,” wrote another.
”Now you know that the bride would rather make you feel bad for not even missing or interrupting the ceremony, just so she has something to complain about and be a victim of, than have $100 and be grateful.”
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