LO and behold. Just hours after Kym Marsh took to social media to declare her love for a new man 19 years her junior, the trolls got to work.
There were many comments directed at the 48-year-old actress and singer, such as: “He looks like your son” and “I like you, Kim, but keep it to yourself.”
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Lest we forget, trolls rarely, if ever, say things out of love. These comments came from a feeling of discomfort, jealousy and with the sole aim of shaming.
The waves of disapproval were palpable.
But that’s what you get when you’re a woman who has had more than one partner in her life and who society thinks should quietly enter middle age and not brag about having found love again.
Her new boyfriend is Samuel Thomas, 29, an actor, singer and vocal coach. They met while performing in 101 Dalmatians: The Musical, in which Kym plays Cruella de Vil.
Like me, Kym has been married three times. In my opinion, she is a woman who dances to the beat of her own drum.
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She has led many lives, becoming a mother at 19 and 21, while engaged to the children’s father. A time marked by financial instability and, without a doubt, the caustic judgment that all young mothers suffer.
Then she married her first husband; she found fame in the band Hear’Say; the marriage ended and she married a second time.
But life was not without pain and sadness. She had a daughter, but lost her premature son, Archie, shortly after his birth. The kind of pain that many struggle to recover from.
The loss of a child would test even the strongest relationships and, unsurprisingly, her marriage to Jamie Lomas didn’t last.
Determined in her search for love, Kym picked herself up and dusted herself off.
Eventually, she fell in love again, but due to work commitments, her third marriage failed.
It could be part of what angered the trolls so much – because it’s only been a year since she split from Major Scott Ratcliff and now she has the audacity to announce that she’s found happiness again.
With three marriages and children from different fathers, how dare she fall in love again with someone she already calls her “soulmate”?
We are all having multiple relationships
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This type of behavior makes people deeply uncomfortable.
This doesn’t sit well with them. In fact, I’m sure many would prefer her to stay unhappy and heartbroken until the end of time.
Here she is in all her loving glory, showing the world that her search for love has, once again, been successful. I’m thrilled for her. You would expect me to say this – as a woman who has been married three times and has children by different fathers and has not yet given up on my search for love.
Things have changed, guys. We are all living longer and with the stigma of divorce gradually lessening over time, we all have multiple relationships.
We are no longer going to get married at 20 and sit still for the rest of our lives. next 50 years, because women now go out to work and build lives for themselves, and greater connectivity and accessibility means we have more options. Maybe too much choice.
This is why I truly admire Kym Marsh. I don’t know her from Adam, but she seems like a woman after my own heart.
She is fearless when it comes to betting on love. She jumps in with both feet first. She is a die-hard romantic, not deterred or so scarred by past experiences as to give up on love.
She has the kind of formidable strength that allows her to carry on when most people – usually men – have a heartbreak and can’t contemplate love again.
Things take their course, people change
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Kym doesn’t give up. I don’t understand why people can’t see this as a virtue, as a tenacious and courageous attitude. She runs her own race.
Although, historically, women have probably suffered greater shame and disgrace when they get divorced, we are learning to see that the end of relationships or marriages is not a “failure.”
Things take their course, people change, circumstances change and we know now that we don’t need to shut up and endure it for the rest of our lives.
Furthermore, every relationship has its positive points, its great moments and they may be right for us at that moment. Not everything is disastrous.
I used to see divorce as a huge failure. With three under my belt and no chance of walking down the aisle again, I see it much more positively these days.
It has given me personal freedom and I can recognize that I am not the person I was 34 years ago when I first got married.
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Like Kym, I’ve always believed that if something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to make changes. At the same time he doesn’t give up on love.
There will be many who think that Kym (and I) are idiots, that we are weak or desperate, or that we are too soft to tirelessly seek a happy ending in the face of so much misfortune.
We are not unlucky in love. In fact, we’re probably just a couple of romantics. And you can’t criticize someone for that, right?
Kym is proof that women’s needs, desires and attitudes have changed. We are perfectly capable of doing whatever we want.
In Kym’s words to one of the followers who opposed this new chapter in her life: “Do one!”
Put aside your envy and criticism and let’s all salute Kym Marsh.
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