TIRED of pretending? You are not alone.
Going all the way with your partner is special, but it’s not always a level playing field.
On average, men experience 20% more orgasms than women during sex.
And it doesn’t end there, as research has revealed that almost a quarter of women cross the finish line alone weekly, compared to almost half of men.
This is known as the “orgasm gap.”
So, with National Orgasm Day coming up on Wednesday next week, we have the mission to close it.
But it’s not just your sexual skill set that may need work.
From wearing socks in the sack to painting the walls purple, Sun Sexpert Georgette Culley reveals nine quirky sex tips to make you scream “yes, yes, yes!”
1. WEAR SOCKS IN BED
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Humble cotton numbers may seem like the least sexy item to wear when seducing your partner, but they can actually spice up your sex life, research shows.
Keeping your feet warm can increase blood circulation, including in all-important erogenous zones, increasing sensitivity and increasing your chances of scoring the Big O.
2. PERFECT TEMPERATURE
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WHEN it comes to hitting the G-spot, temperature is key.
You don’t want to feel too hot or too cold, as this can make you uncomfortable and ruin your chances of climaxing.
Experts believe that the perfect room temperature is 20ºC, or 69 degrees Fahrenheit.
So grab a thermometer and make sure the atmosphere is perfect before seducing your partner. It’s science, baby.
3. Have a hot cup
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MOST of us have a drink to relax between the sheets, but alcohol slows down the nervous system, making orgasm harder to achieve.
On the other hand, a good cup of tea or coffee revs up the nervous system.
Studies show that caffeine can help men perform better in the bedroom by increasing testosterone levels and decreasing the chances of erectile dysfunction.
4. GO BANANAS
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The phallic fruit has long been associated with sex, but bananas are not all style and no substance.
They’re packed with nutrients, including potassium, which can increase the production of testosterone, the hormone that increases sex drive and helps you last longer in bed.
So, the next time you’re planning a hot night out, don’t forget to eat a banana or two.
5. Sleep naked
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Ditching your comfy pajamas can boost your sex life and deepen your bond with your partner.
Skin-to-skin contact increases the release of oxytocin, the love hormone, which helps reduce stress and increases intimacy.
Sleeping naked can also lead to more spontaneous moments of passion, relieving pressure and potentially increasing your chances of orgasm.
What’s not to love?
6. SEX ON YOUR LEAVES
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WHEN you turn up the temperature in your bedroom, breathable sheets are essential.
Natural or semi-natural materials such as cotton, bamboo, Tencel, modal, silk and linen are ideal.
Avoid 100% polyester sheets, which can be hot and scratchy.
And avoid synthetic satin ones, as they are slippery, hot and terrible at absorbing sweat.
The more comfortable you are, the more likely you are to reach orgasm, according to research.
7. MAKE THE ROOM SMELL GOOD
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SCENT is a game changer in the bedroom and we’re not just talking about your partner’s perfume or aftershave.
Lavender, the unsung heroine, can help you relax, improve your mood, and lessen anxiety and depression—perfect for boosting libido and, yes, even improving erections, studies show.
Whether you opt for an aromatherapy burner or add a few drops of lavender oil under your pillow, you’ll be on your way to a more fragrant and, ahem, fruitful night.
8. PAINT THE WALLS PURPLE
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FORGET painting the walls red, purple is the real sexy color.
In a survey of 2,000 adults, people’s amount of sex varied depending on the color of their bedroom and bedding.
People with purple rooms used it about 3.49 times a week, followed by red (3.18), sky blue (3.14), pink (3.02) and black (2.99).
So grab a brush and a pot of purple paint. You might end up getting lucky more often.
9. TAKE A COLD SHOWER
SURPRISINGLY, a cold shower before sex can boost your libido, studies show.
Cold water therapy can increase testosterone levels and improve sexual health, making it advantageous for both sexes.
So the next time you want to turn up the heat, skip the hot shower and take a cold one.
You are welcome.
‘WOMEN CAN ADD TO THE PROBLEM’
By Lizzie Cundy
SADLY, I wasn’t surprised to hear about the gender disparity and orgasm. To be honest, I would have thought it could have been bigger, if the men I dated were anything to go by.
Most guys are so eager to get what they want – the ass and the escape, I call it – that they don’t really consider what their other half would like in the bedroom.
Half the fun between the sheets is pleasing your lover, but men mostly think about themselves and that’s because they’re the most selfish species.
Let’s face it, men are more selfish lovers than women and things need to change.
Most people don’t think about what they can do to turn a woman on. They don’t invest time and effort into it. It’s bam, bam, thank you, ma’am, instead of, “Let’s have a nice evening and let me ask you what you’d like.”
That doesn’t often happen, certainly not with the men I’ve dated.
It’s about time guys put women first. And guys, I have a secret for you: if you have a lot of fun with your girlfriend, she might even want to do it more often. It’s a win-win situation.
I’m no stranger to bad sex. I once had a boyfriend who had no idea what was in the room. I would tell him, “I like this. . . ” but he did it with such ferocity that I remember describing him to a friend as the lawnmower. He started slowly, but once he started, he went like the clappers. It was too much.
I suppose some men are simply ignorant rather than selfish. So if that’s the case, girls, it’s up to you to explain what you like. I believe anyone can improve with a little coaching.
Vicious circle
You need to say, “Actually, honey, I much prefer it this way.” There’s nothing wrong with that, and knowing what the other person likes will bring you closer together. You will have a better, stronger relationship in the long run.
Sex isn’t always like it is in the movies, where everything is perfect. You have to make it fun and not overthink it.
We women need to stop pretending. Every woman I know does this to make her man feel like he’s doing a good job, but we’re contributing to the problem.
The men walk away mistakenly thinking they are some Adonis who did a great job, when they didn’t.
But I get it, women use it as a tool to end things because they don’t like it. It’s a vicious cycle.
It’s best to be honest with your guy, keeping a sense of humor and letting him know how to please you.
Men may not want to talk about it. But if you don’t communicate and make everything fun, it can all end in disaster.
Without a healthy sex life, most relationships will go down the drain. My mother always said that it’s either sex or money that will ruin a marriage.
I’ve seen time and time again, with women I know, that an unsatisfactory sex life can lead to divorce.
If the woman is not aroused, the intimacy between the couple will decrease and, ultimately, it is the sex-starved man who is truly fed up.
If a woman thinks, “Let’s get this over with,” which so many people do, it can lead to a breakup. All because the woman is not getting what she needs.
Men could have the life they really love if they just tried a little harder, because then their woman would want it more regularly and everyone would be happy.
So come on guys, you can do better.
You need to get a grip so we can narrow down these statistics as quickly as possible.
Or you might find yourself in your bed. . . alone.
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