A BRIDE-to-be is discussing the wedding venue with her future husband.
She was initially happy with the location and felt it was “special” after they both agreed.
But six months after agreeing to the location, she discovered he had already married his ex-wife.
The news only came to light after the bride searched through her partner’s old photos on Facebook and found an old wedding photo of him in the same location.
She took to the online forum Mumsnet to express her concern and first explained that they both booked their wedding venue around six months ago after “mutually deciding on a location that is special to us”.
O future bride wrote: “I just discovered that his wedding to his first wife was at the same place, after coming across an old wedding photo of him.
“It must have been a special place for him and his ex-wife too! I didn’t mention it because I don’t know if I was wrong in finding it strange to choose the same location?
Since posting her question, the bride-to-be has been inundated with people sharing their views, with many believing her husband’s choice of action was a “little strange.”
Another added: “I agree!
“And he should have told you that his previous wedding was at the same location!”
Another added: “I think it’s a bit strange. The people on your side will probably find this a little strange, I think.
“I wouldn’t want to take photos knowing there will be photos in exactly the same place as the first wife. Maybe it’s just me.
“It will be difficult for others not to compare the two weddings, I think, if they also went to the first one.”
Someone simply wrote: “It’s really weird.”
Another Mumsnet user also commented on a similar experience.
They wrote: “Yes. I know someone who did this.
Very strange
“All the family and friends on his side were the same. It was like déjà vu. And it somehow made the wedding vows seem less sincere, since he was literally in the same place making the same promises to someone else.
“To make matters worse, his second wife had the same name as his first wife and then adopted the surname. So, same name, same surname, same location, same guests. Very strange.”
Most commenters were perplexed and wondered what the other guests were thinking.
One wrote: “Very strange. Presumably some of the guests will have been invited to both – that alone would be enough for me not to want that.”
How to choose the perfect wedding venue
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy digital editor and bride-to-be
When I got engaged in April 2023, choosing a location was at the top of my to-do list. After all, you can’t plan anything else until this is defined.
And, knowing we wanted to get married on Saturday the following summer, time was of the essence – so we booked our venue within three weeks.
Here are my top tips for finding the perfect location with minimal stress:
- Work out what kind of venue you want – there are lots of options, church wedding, mansion, castle, town hall, something outside, rustic barn or a marquee in the countryside. Think about weddings you’ve been to, what attracted you and what didn’t, then use Instagram and Pinterest for inspiration.
- Set your budget – a quick Google will tell you that the average wedding costs £20k, but some of the places I looked at cost more than just the venue. Make sure you know how much you can really spend before you go too far down the garden path.
- Choose a location – our families live 230 miles apart (about a 5 hour drive), so we quickly cut out places that we felt were too far for my fiancé’s side and then chose a fairly specific location with several locations to choose from .
- Look on a wedding database – there are a lot of good ones out there now, my favorite is Hitched where you can compare multiple venues and get basic information on things like cost and venue rules, something they don’t normally mention on their own websites . This way, you’ve already narrowed down your choices before you start asking questions.
- Don’t be swayed by trends – choose what YOU want as a couple, the current viral trend won’t even make sense when you look at your photos in 10 or 20 years.
- Think about the decoration – one of the decisive factors for our space was the fact that it needed very little decoration, as the rooms in the place spoke for themselves. Yes, we paid a little more for a stunning venue, but as a result, we got cut flowers, table decorations and wall features.
- Go with your gut – you may spend a lot of time weighing up your options, but speaking from experience, wedding planning is time consuming and it’s usually best to pull the trigger when you’re 80% convinced. Furthermore, it is a competitive business and waiting too long can make you lose out.
But others suggested this could be due to the groom’s lack of creativity.
“I think he probably has no imagination,” said one Mothers Network of the user.
“I think it’s weird and wrong, but I can imagine a lot of men thinking, oh, that place was decent, I might as well use it again.”
The bride later returned to the social media thread to comment further on her thoughts.
She wrote: “Thank you so much for all your quick responses.
“Not just me then, I’m going to have to talk to him about it.
“From what I see, he and his first wife got married in a different building, in the same garden.
“The photographic scenarios would be the same, as it is obviously the same garden. I think (I hope) the reception location is also different, but I’m not sure, I’ll need to ask him.”
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